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Making new friends, advice for Matthew and Ashley
The
challenges with moving to a new town, is making new friends. I have extended my
friendship to several people and not all of them, took.
Making new friends is sort
of like dating, you don't know the person on just first impressions. I waited 3
months before I extended my time to strangers and spent some moments in time
with people, just to see how we clicked together.
Everyone has
something they are interested in, or like to chat about. I do my best to avoid
gossip.
My
tips on making new friends:
Tip
1. Talk about current events, but instead of re-counting the event. Say how the
event impacted you. Points to remember, keep your opinions simple, as much as
we don’t like to think about it, our every word is being judged by the person
you are talking to.
Example: This week was Shark
week, and it is also the first time, I actually watched and made an event out
of shark week. (How did it impact me?) I learned new facts about sharks, and
that I am super scared of sharks, yes, even after all the documentaries from
shark week. Talking about what I learned gives me an opening conversation
starter.
Tip
2. Be open to potential friend material. Here are the (soft) rules I implemented.
I asked myself, are they law abiding, do they smoke, and lastly, do they have a
clean and pleasant appearance, Will I be embarrassed to be seen with them in
public? (Have they bathed in the last 24 hrs, did they comb their hair and brush
their teeth, regardless of how old or style of their clothes, are their clothes
clean and tidy) Non-smoking is a must for me.
Tip
3. Always remember to use your manners, you know the basic never fail social
rules you learned in grade school.
Tip
4. If the person you originally asked out on a “get to know me friends outing” doesn't work out, it still might result in a friendship, from the other people they
know, a co-worker, relative, and or neighbor.
Last rule, I usually will not invite a stranger into my home until I
have known them for about 2 years. (By choice: I live simply, and in a small
space, to enter my home is truly seeing into my medicine cabinet and private
space.)
The
two quote pictures are from me chatting with the husband about the people who didn't turn out to be friends-material and I quoted him.
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